Musings on Life Series

  What is Mindset? Mindset is a collection of thoughts and beliefs that shape our thoughts habits. Our thought habits affect how we think, what we feel and what we do. Our mindset is a big deal and it is how we understand & experience the world. Our mindset forms thoughts which establish beliefs and attitudes. Our education, exposure, cultural background and family values have a deep impact on our mindset. It is easy to say that our mindset is a frame of mind or way of thinking. Our mindset can ·          Be affected by experience, education and culture ·          Tend to be fixed and can be changed ·          Form quickly and may resist change ·          Help to determine actions and behaviours ·          Affect how you perceive the world around and how you perceive yourself ·...

  Death changes nothing. You still miss the voice, the wisdom of advice, stories and experiences shared. No! Time doesn’t change anything. The hardest part of life is learning to live without the loved one you lost . You are unsure which pain is worst – the shock of what had happened or the ache for what never will happen. Death of a parent leaves a heartache no one can heal but their love leaves a memory no one can steal! The pain of loss can be overwhelming. Grieving is a highly individual experience and how you grieve depends on many factors like your personality, coping style, your life experiences, your faith and your age at the time of loss of your parent or any loved one. It is even more painful when it is a parent. In my personal experience, I lost my dad when I was 11 years old. Still the memory of his death is fresh in my mind like it was just yesterday. The pain gets better with time but when special occasions and life events are around the corner I miss him badly....

Maybe you recently went through a bad phase in your life or going through a really tough time in your life. Maybe you are surrounded by negativity, feeling frustrated waiting for an interview call or a new project. This is just for you, lets begin our search within us. I know you would have heard lot of people tell you to be positive and feel confident. We can easily be positive and confident when everything goes as we like and everything is good. We feel life is great, life is beautiful. We feel motivated, inspired to achieve our dreams. Do you feel positive when you are struggling to make ends meet? Are you positive while waiting for an interview after losing a job? Are you positive when waiting for that rare promotion? Do you feel positive when waiting for a new project? How positive are you when you are waiting for that big break in your career?  You want something to happen, you start being hopeful when you take the initial steps. You feel motivated and work for ...

 Life is busy always but the pandemic had turned it up a notch on a whole new level. Stress added with household chores gets added to work. Time goes up in a haze leaving you stressed, frustrated, restless and a nervous wreck. When you want to sleep you don’t feel like sleeping. So you end up scrolling social media, youtube or binge watching web series or movies online. As a result the quality and the quantity of sleep is lost. If you don’t get enough sleep it adds to the stress and makes you irritable throughout the day; maybe accompanied by a nagging headache. I can hear you saying “ Story of my life! ” It directly or indirectly takes a toll on your physical health, emotional well – being and overall satisfaction in life.   You might be going through a tough phase in life at this point of time due to the financial crisis and economic slowdown coupled with stress at home with work. This is just for you! “Relax, take a deep breathe! Spend sometime for yourself. Talk to you...

  Aparna’s Weekend Musings on Life – Series 5 – Emotional validations Why do we look up to others to get acknowledgement or approval? Because being acknowledged by others makes us feel more accepted, secured and loved. As a result, these acknowledgements make us to perceive ourselves as valuable, desirable, esteem-able and in short: feel special .   Each of us dream of standing out, being admired or acclaimed. To be considered by others as average or adequate really doesn’t do much for our ego. This is due to the fact that as a society we refuse to celebrate individuals except when they are judged as exceptional. As a result when we hear drums banging for someone else, we get irritated or jealous because that is the drum roll we long to hear for ourselves. Acknowledgement and appreciation increases our inner sense of worth. Such external approvals are a necessity for those of us affected by self-doubt. More than often such acknowledgement or appreciation or recognition d...