Aparna’s Weekend Musings on Life – Series 5 – Emotional validations
Aparna’s Weekend Musings on Life – Series 5 – Emotional validations Why do we look up to others to get acknowledgement or approval? Because being acknowledged by others makes us feel more accepted, secured and loved. As a result, these acknowledgements make us to perceive ourselves as valuable, desirable, esteem-able and in short: feel special . Each of us dream of standing out, being admired or acclaimed. To be considered by others as average or adequate really doesn’t do much for our ego. This is due to the fact that as a society we refuse to celebrate individuals except when they are judged as exceptional. As a result when we hear drums banging for someone else, we get irritated or jealous because that is the drum roll we long to hear for ourselves. Acknowledgement and appreciation increases our inner sense of worth. Such external approvals are a necessity for those of us affected by self-doubt. More than often such acknowledgement or appreciation or recognition d...